Dear Blog, Some Days I Don't Like You

Dear Blog, Some Days I Don't Like You_Simply Marina

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Dear Blog, I have a confession to make.

Sometimes I am not so fond of you. Some days I just don’t like you. Not in the least. Some days you’re not my pretty little corner on the Internet so dear to my heart. There, I said it!

Some days I don’t feel like writing a single line. I don’t want to push myself simply because I am supposed to publish content regularly.

I know, people won’t come back to my blog if it’s not up-to-date. My followers will lose interest if they don’t see anything new for a week or so. And yes, my readership will never get bigger if I don’t work hard enough.

Yet, some days I don’t want to write. It’s not that I don’t respect all those readers who stop by and read my stuff. I sincerely appreciate every single person who has ever read a post on Simply Marina. Actually, readers are the very reason I don’t publish every day or a few times a week. Because I’d rather publish a piece when I think I have something to say, and not every Monday, Wednesday, Friday, etc. when I haven’t got anything.

Articles that teach you how to blog would say this is not serious. No, it is serious. I take it all very seriously. All that blogging thing. But I really don’t see the point of sharing all my family’s trips to different places, for example, unless there is something else in addition, a message.

There are fellow bloggers who share a lot about their family life and I love their blogs: Katy from Hot Pink Wellingtons, Laura from Dear Bear and Beany, Yvonne from Double the Monkey Business, and Laura from Life with Baby Kicks to name but a few. Check out their posts, they write beautifully.

Blogging about family lifestyle is cute and I enjoy reading such pieces, but it’s not for me. I consider myself a mummy blogger but I didn’t launch this blog with the intention of discussing my son’s childhood in detail. To tell the truth, I even have concerns about sharing pictures of him. This is why there are so few of them on the blog and my social media profiles.

There are other fellow bloggers who create beautiful content, publish wonderful recipes with stunning pictures and do it often. Elizabeth from Elizabeth’s Kitchen Diary and Tracy from The Culinary Jumble among my favourites. Not me. I wish I was one of them but I’m not. And I admire them for their consistency and perseverance.

“What prevents you from being as prolific and successful as they are?”, you would ask. I’ll give you my honest answer. Blogging takes time, too much time. Every day. It’s not your 9-5 job. It takes possession of your thoughts, of your sleep, of your mornings and evenings. It demands from me more than I can give. I am not ready to devote all my days to it, that’s it.

Sometimes, it takes me hours to complete a blog post, to choose an appropriate image, to edit it all, to promote my content. Social media, linkies, threads, comments, e-mails… – they’re all time-consuming.

I don’t want all this, not all the time. It could be overwhelming. It steals from my family time, from my other hobbies, from myself. Well, I’m not writing this post to complain about being a blogger. It’s my own choice whether to run this blog or not.

In fact, I enjoy blogging. I love my little blog. It’s not that popular nor does it look gorgeous or professional, but still, I love it. I really do. It means freedom, it means joy, it’s the home of my writing attempts.

But I prefer to stop for a while when inspiration is gone. Because it’s not about seeing yet another post published. I don’t say all my posts so far are deeply meaningful or worthwhile. However, I have written them all in a moment of inspiration. I can’t write anything decent if I don’t feel it. If it doesn’t come from the heart, why to do it in the first place?

This is how I understand blogging. I apologise to my readers for not publishing frequently enough. My blog is not so full of posts and stories but it defines me – quality over quantity, being passionate about writing over writing because I have to.

Simply Marina, simply me. 🙂

I am sorry, my dear blog, but some days I don’t feel like writing. Life happens, inspiration is lost, thousands of other reasons… Some days I pay you no attention. And that’s OK, because family first

Thank you all for reading! I love having you here.

Marina xxx

Hot Pink Wellingtons
Life with Baby Kicks

60 thoughts on “Dear Blog, Some Days I Don't Like You

  1. Leanne @Smiles and Sundays says:

    Oh my gosh!!! Yes!yes!yes! To all of this! I have been thinking these same things over the past few weeks. Trying so hard to publish quality and quantity content. Trying to decide, do I want to make this blogging gig a “thing” and be a “serious” blogger or just continue to plod along…? All the experts say, you need a niche to be successful. Hmmmm. Is this really true? I think I have like a million categories and tend to write about what strikes me at the time. Point is, I ❤️ this post and couldn’t have said it better myself.

  2. Rosie Digout says:

    I think at some point all bloggers have those exact feelings. For myself, I have learned how to let some things go. Yes, I have an editorial calendar but sometimes life gets in the way. Do my readers know that on “x” day I am supposed to share a post on productivity or blogging tips? Probably not. Every time I went off schedule, I would apologize profusely for not getting it out on time or that I have been MIA. I have finally learned that it’s okay not to post right on time and it’s okay not to apologize.

  3. Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons says:

    I can relate so much to this – I don’t like to post for the sake of it, and I can sometimes get down about the pressure to post regularly. It’s funny I read this today though as I have a post scheduled tomorrow about embracing being a mummy blogger – for so long I tried to fit myself into another hole and I’ve finally come around to realising that writing about our family life is fine, that it doesn’t have to be anything ‘bigger’. But what you’ve written here is exactly what I love about your blog – that your posts are always really well written, and do always have a strong point to them. I think that’s your strong point, and with such a focus, inspiration is often harder to find, and I think readers accept that and will keep coming back, even without the hallowed ‘regular posting schedule’. Thanks so much for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove, and for the shout out!

    • marinailieva says:

      Thank you so much, Katy! Kind and supportive as always. 🙂 But you’re quite right – inspiration is sometimes difficult to find with such a focus. Wel, blogging is a challenge and that’s why we like it so much. 🙂 xxx

  4. Lucy At Home says:

    Family first! Yes definitely. I can really relate to this. I feel like I daren’t stop (even if I want a few days off) because things move so fast in the internet world. I took a week off for half term and dropped 4 points off my DA score. Now I’m not technical enough to know if that’s purely because I took a break or whether there are other factors too, but it’s made me scared to have another break now. I don’t want to damage all the hard work that I’ve done so far. But family has to come first. I’ve set myself a rule that weekends have to be blog-free so that I can properly focus on family things. And, much as I love blogging, it’s quite nice to close my laptop on Friday night and know that I don’t need to open it again until monday morning 🙂 #SharingTheBlogLove

    • marinailieva says:

      I know the feeling, Lucy! Being afraid of your DA, stats, Klout score, etc., etc. dropping off. But numbers will not run my life, of that I’m sure. I’ll keep blogging simply because I enjoy it. 🙂 xx

  5. Emma T says:

    I think blogging is what we make of it and that includes how frequently we post. I just have lots to say, so mostly blog daily…something I wanted to reduce this year, but I just can’t because I’ve too many post ideas sitting there. But I also know people who have huge views compared to me, and only post monthly, ro every so weeks #sharingthebloglove

  6. Cherry Newby (@TheNewbyTribe) says:

    Oh I completely agree!! Some days I wake up full of things I want to say and it all pours out and some days I don’t even want to turn on the computer or even look at my blog! I read your blog post nodding all the way through!! #sharingthebloglove

  7. Elizabeth says:

    I completely, 100% agree with what you have to say here. Sometimes I really hate blogging too – it’s not a 9-5 job, it’s all encompassing – I put in 12, 14, 16 hour days sometimes. I’ve had half a day off in the last…. oh, when did I go on holiday – July? It can be mentally exhausting. I had 15 minutes of relief today once I hit publish on that last sponsored blog post thinking I was all caught up, only to get a telephone call 15 minutes later saying the deadline has been pushed ahead for another post – can they have their content (which I hadn’t even started thinking about) by Wednesday midday please. I started work at 4:30 this morning before the kids got up. It’s hard work, but you know, I wouldn’t have it any other way. It means I’m here when the kids go to school, and when they come home, and today they got to eat a hot dinner I’d just finished filming the making of when they got home. I don’t think I could work for someone else ever again! Keep doing what you love and it’ll shine through in your work. Thank you for the mention, you made me smile so big when I first read it. Hugely appreciated, you have no idea the confidence boost your words gave me. x (ps. once the kids go to bed I’m cracking open the wine and binge watching Netflix!).

    • marinailieva says:

      No need to thank me, Elizabeth. Your blog is pretty bloody awesome. And it’s so nice you have found your thing to do, it’s always inspirational to others. 🙂 xxx

  8. Jakijellz says:

    I think we would all be lying if we didn’t feel like this at some point. I’ve managed to nail my routine to the point that I have three or four nights to myself a week. If I didn’t do that I don’t think I could keep it up! So long as you love what you do when you do it- there’s nothing wrong with that. #sharingthebloglove

  9. dearbearandbeany says:

    I felt like this about 5 months after I started my blog and then I went on holiday and had a really good think about what I wanted from blog. I came back with a fresh approach and yes I still blog daily, but the way that I manage my time means I have so much more time away from it. I found my balance. There are weeks where it all goes out the window and I am chasing my feet. But I love it and I need to write for me, without it I would be a bigger mess. Thank you for the mention and your kind words, that really made me smile a lot. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

  10. Elsie Pop says:

    It’s not just family first for me – it’s sanity first! Running a craft blog it’s kind of hard to post as regularly as some other niches – I have to make the stuff in the first place to blog about! I’m very conscious of not writing too much “filler”. People don’t seek out a craft blog to hear about my latest dog walk – they want crafty stuff! It does mean I can’t really adhere to a schedule like a lot of bloggers, and I think it will always limit my traffic – but I feel like the integrity and quality of my blog is more important than its traffic. If I post too much filler, it won’t be something I enjoy doing any more.

  11. Sarah Stockley (@kipperscurtains) says:

    This is so true! If you want to succeed it’s a 24/7 job! Thinking about content, writing it, sharing it, commenting… it all takes a huge chunk or our day to day lives. So I get what you’re saying. Sometimes I have nothing I feel is worth sharing! Sarah #sharingthebloglove

  12. Twin Pickle says:

    I am only a few months into blogging but totally understand what you’re saying. When I have lots of alone time I love the blog but this week I have family in town and I’m finding it hard to keep up with it all! #sharingthebloglove

  13. Siena Says says:

    I love this! So well written and yes it is exactly how I feel. I hate that pressure of feeling you have to publish all the time, all those blogging rules and so on. I recently decided to just be me and if people like my blog that’s fine and if they don’t, that’s fine too!!! Family first for me too (plus my work too)

    #SharingtheBlogLove

  14. Louise says:

    I love this post. You could be me. I have hardly posted recently because it feels like repetition or just not good enough. I have been craving some reading or just being vegetable like in front of some tv after the monkeys finally go to bed. I love my blog and I want others to love it too, but right now I need down time. Thank you for helping me feel less frustrated #SharingtheBlogLove xxx

  15. chocolateandwineandillbefine says:

    I love this! It is definitely harder than I imagined it would be, there is definitely more to it than just writing. But I don’t post every day and I don’t try to worry. Some weeks I have tons of inspiration but no energy whatsoever, I don’t want to burn out so I just take a week off. Like you say, family time is the most important thing. I have to accept that my blog will always be about the 5th priority in my life! #SharingtheBlogLove

    • marinailieva says:

      Yes, it’s harder than most of us have probably anticipated. But we don’t need to worry. Blogging is fun, maybe a job, but it can never be before family. Thank you for stopping by. 🙂 x

  16. tootingmama says:

    Thank you for this post, I feel the same way too. I would rather post something that is meaningful (and that always takes so much time to write) rather that oh what shall I post today! You are so right about blogging not being a 9-5 job, blogging for me exists around everything else. I think your blogging philosophy is so spot on!

    • marinailieva says:

      Thank you for your kind words. You’re so right – meaningful pieces take a lot of time and it’s not always rewarding. But they bring satisfaction to yourself and that feels great. 🙂 x

  17. Crystal says:

    I 100% relate to this. I blog in moments of “inspiration.” When some thought hits me hard and I just HAVE to share it. Not regularly, not with weekly themes, just with passion.

  18. susielhawes says:

    Such a fantastic piece, couldn’t have put it better myself. This is everything i am feeling about blogging at the moment, so much so that I’m not sure I’m cut out for it. I just can’t give it the time it needs if I really want to grow it. But, life is short and family comes first for me too. I don’t want to go down the whole putting the TV on or ignoring my daughter just so I can blog nor do I want to write when I haven’t got anything to say! A well deserved featured post from #SharingtheBlogLove xx

    • marinailieva says:

      Ah, thank you so much! Sometimes, blogging wants too much, doesn’t it? And kids don’t grow up a second time, nor does family time double. So it’s the most important things in life to choose first. 🙂 xx

  19. Rachel Hawkins (@ourrachblogs) says:

    This really resonated with me. Some days I struggle to want to write. In fact, I haven’t really written anything for a while. I don’t think my heads in it at the moment. A lot of the time I attribute this to pressure. Pressure I apply on myself, to be the best, to write the best, to make the best point blah blah blah. It’s not about that and I need to realise that. #effitfriday

    • marinailieva says:

      I agree. We put too much pressure into it and that does us no good. I realised I wanted my blog to be fun not a burden, it’s much more relaxing this way. 🙂 xx

  20. Laura @ Life with Baby Kicks says:

    Thank you for mentioning me 😊

    I’ve gotten to this point recently, where once I was posting every other day, daily even at some points I’ve just ran out of hours in the day to fit everything in. When something has to give it tends to be the blog, the boys don’t sleep, we do start early and I’m tired a lot of the time which doesn’t make for great writing!

  21. Laura: Adventures with J says:

    I have this constant battle between wanting people to reqd it and wanting it not to take over my life as it is just a hobby and should come at the bottom of the pile not the top! It is really hard to balance and some days I wonder if I should throw it all in… Feel your blog frustrations. #sharing the blog love

    • marinailieva says:

      Exactly! There is the dilemma – should I keep doing it since it takes over my life or should I stop worrying about how successful it is and let it remain what it initially was, a hobby? Thank you for reading! 🙂 xx

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