“No, Thank You. We Don’t Eat That”

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Remember my first blog post about children’s healthy diet? I know many people would disapprove my opinion, but parents are supposed to follow their own beliefs after all, aren’t we? And here is mine – the healthier, the better.  I try hard, and yet can I possibly succeed when others behave as if they are happy to sabotage my efforts? “Hi, sweetie! Here, a lollipop. Your mother will turn a blind eye.” I have been struggling with people’s unwillingness to understand since my son was a baby. It’s difficult to survive out there as the strange species whose kid crunches carrots instead of chips. Relax, I haven’t quit. I am already used to raised eyebrows and sarcastic comments.

This is to all who consider my ideas of “healthy” ridiculous. Dear people (friends and acquaintances among you), please don’t judge me. You buy junk food for your kids and yourselves on a regular basis? And you don’t see anything unusual about it? Or you don’t think about the matter at all, as long as your offspring are kept pacified and you can’t be bothered cooking for dinner? That’s OK. I don’t blame you for anything. I don’t point at you pretending to be a know-it-all. I wish I could make you change the picture. I wish I could make you realise that “healthy eating” is not another trend to laugh at. But I guess, I cannot and I don’t judge you. Because this is your choice, and I’m sure you do your best. So do I.

Perhaps there is a slight difference between you and me. I dare to say ‘no’ to anyone who offers unhealthy stuff to my child, and I mean anyone. When my son was a little baby with four teeth in front, I had to do it almost every day (and how do few teeth handle a sticky jelly in the first place?). I would say “No, thank you. We don’t eat that”. I still do it, although with my kid growing up and getting more curious it already sounds like “Only one, please.” Do you think this is rude? I’m never unkind and I get it, you have good intentions. Well, I’m afraid your good intentions won’t prevent me from saying ‘no’. Besides, isn’t it a little bit unkind to give food to children neglecting what their parents have to say? I always ask even if it’s about a piece of apple (food allergies are so common these days, aren’t they?). Don’t be hurt by my firm ‘no’ answer. My only wish is to protect my precious, and I rely on you being an adult who could comprehend why I do it.

I care about the food my boy eats, that’s it. Please, don’t try to convince me I’m wrong. You are talking to an obstinate creature. Seriously, I’m unyielding and I don’t feel embarrassed about feeding my child this way. Yes, we don’t go to McDonalds at weekends and I can admit it straight out. Instead, I make sandwiches at home and we go to the park, and this is fun, too.

You’ll give it another shot arguing about the quality of food. I am well aware that most of the ‘healthy’ food is not as healthy as it should be. I realise that the fruits and veggies we buy are so likely to be contaminated with bad substances. And who knows what they put in ‘natural’ yoghurt or cheese? But yet, I prefer them rather than something packed that expires in two years. I just can’t accept it – giving anything to a little infant regardless of how poisonous it could be because ‘they will catch up with junk food at school anyway’. So do you suggest I shouldn’t be concerned about my child’s first five years? No, dear parents. I refuse to find comfort in such a persuasion. I don’t believe that food industry has beaten us forever. True, crappy food is everywhere, but I refuse to let it fully dictate my family’s eating habits.

This is because I decide so. Don’t judge me for my choice.

And you, my dearest child, you’ll soon be able to make your own choices. Hopefully, your mummy has managed to teach you a thing or two about food. 🙂

Marina xxx

 

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33 thoughts on ““No, Thank You. We Don’t Eat That”

  1. Rossana says:

    Stay strong. I agree with you. My children are 10 and 8 and already know what’s bad for them. So they do learn. They know what junk food is. Yes they like the taste but they know we don’t buy that food. My 5 year old was shocked the first time she had to attend a MacDonald’s birthday party. She made me laugh. We are not too extreme at all but I think (just as you said) the food industry hasn’t beaten us !!!!!

  2. suz says:

    I’m with you all the way on this one. Stick to your guns. A healthy diet is so difficult to achieve without people sabotaging your efforts. I agree finding food not laced with chemicals is tricky but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do the best you can for you and your little boy. People should respect your choices. I love your ‘We don’t eat that’ response. Will remember that one.

  3. Mother of Teenagers says:

    Marina I think it is everyone’s prerogative to bring up their children to eat in whatever way they see fit. From my perspective 90% of the time my children eat very healthily and by that I mean a regular balanced diet of protein, carbs and organic fruit and veg. I am strict on sweets but not on chocolate and the words McDonalds and Domino’s are banned in my house. However, we are not perfect and some ready to cook meals do slip in sometimes. I admire you if you have managed to keep your children to this strict eating regime and it will be an achievement if they manage to continue as they grow up. I am not with you on the whole clean eating thing though. We have dabbled with it and I found it exhausting in terms of effort (mostly in finding those elusive products) and my family didn’t enjoy it, but then again my love affair with cooking is not as passionate as yours. This was fascinating to read and thanks for sharing. #BloggerClubUK

    • marinailieva says:

      Oh, but no, we’re not perfect either. Nor am I too strict. I’ve mentioned it the previous post – I keep it all moderate. I’m not obsessed with totally clean diet (I often stress the fact that I am a chocolate addict myself 😀 ), we too eat pizza or ice cream, and nothing is either forbidden or eaten because we have to. But if we stick to some healthier habits 80 % of the time, it’s still a huge thing. And if my son finds red peppers delicious, I’d rather give him more of them, and not the crappy chips just because everyone else around us does it. I can’t say whether he’ll continue this way, I hope he will. Thank you so much for reading. 🙂

  4. randommusings29 says:

    Great post. Ultimately, each parent has to make decision about what is best for their child, and if this is your choice then people should respect it. If they want to give your child a treat, why not give them some grapes or a small box of raisins
    Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK 🙂
    Debbie

  5. Something About Baby says:

    I really resonate with this post – I wouldn’t say I’m “overly” healthy, but I don’t like to give crisps, biscuits etc as snacks, even if they are aimed at babies. But I often get family offering the baby a lick of their ice cream or a taste of chocolate…it makes me very uncomfortable when I get called boring because I say no. I didn’t have the healthiest diet, but I’m trying to change this and give my son healthy habits from the start, but already I’m coming up against a lot of obstacles…I honestly dread him getting older and more temptation being put in his way! I have to try and be stronger in saying “no thank you, we don’t eat that” great post #bloggerclubuk

    • marinailieva says:

      We should stay strong if this is what we believe in. I also fear the school age being just around the corner, as I know it will be getting more and more challenging. But I hope by this time, I could have managed to give my child some good examples he would stick to. Thank you for reading. 🙂

  6. occupation:(m)other says:

    I can’t pretend I don’t give my child anything unhealthy because I do, but I think very hard about the balance of his day and I really like to be the one who manages that. I always say no when food is offered (and it is offered a weird amount isn’t it!?) if I don’t want him to have it…I’ve never considered it to be rude. They don’t know if my son has just had something similar or is allergic as you say and actually I don’t really care either way. The other thing I find is the language people use can be really odd and a bit confusing. ‘Treats’ mostly and only for unhealthy treats. If a child considers a treat to be an apple then why not!?
    Sometimes I have to be a bit more firm with grandparents…!
    #BloggerClubUK

  7. The Culinary Jumble says:

    I totally agree about the clean eating – 99% of the time, the food we eat is home-cooked and fresh. We don’t buy convenience food and everything is pretty much made from scratch. However, my kids to eat sweets, crisps and every now and again, do have fast food. For me, it isn’t a huge problem because I think it’s all about balance!

  8. Soppymum says:

    I can relate to this completely. I’m not always great and food is used as a way to keep him from screaming in a car but I do try! My biggest one is crisps! Staying no to him being given crisps, I get concerned at the salt levels. But I know that’s just me so I try to say no without causing a full on discussion!!! It’s a difficult one! #sharingthebloglove

  9. Back With A Bump says:

    Good post and good on you. There’s a misconception that kids should eat kids food. They should apparently eat Happy Meals, turkey dinosaurs, Billy bear ham they contains no actual ham, etc.
    I’m not as disciplined as you and admit to buying some lunchbox crap for my eldest bit that’s combined with a nice roll and usually two portions of fruit or veg sticks. She’s told me she has the healthiest lunchbox and I’m shocked by what some kids have for lunch.
    We don’t buy processed food at home and I cook from scratch everyday. Yes we have cakes as a treat and enjoy sharing a bag of Kettle Chips but on the whole we eat well and I definitely appreciate the benefits of it. It’s all about moderation. #sharingthebloglove

    • marinailieva says:

      Thank you. This is the problem, most of the food some kids eat is crappy, and parents don’t even give it a thought. It’s about our children’s health here, it IS a big deal. But once again, yes, it’s all about being moderate. 🙂 x

  10. Alice Soule says:

    Good on you! I feed my children a very healthy, vegetarian (virtually no dairy either) diet and they are so strong and healthy. It’s always the parents of children with constant colds and coughs that judge the most. You’re doing the best for your children and I think it’s wonderful. A x

    • marinailieva says:

      Thank you! So are you. The statistics about diseases among children are getting worse the last years. Why? Maybe nowadays, bad food is one of the factors too. But I’m really happy there are so many parents out there who thinks like you and me. 🙂 xx

  11. nowmynameismummy says:

    Great post, I think a healthy diet is so important, junk food and sweets is far too accessible these days, when I was younger it was a Saturday night treat to have some sweets. Lately I’ve noticed my own diet slipping so yesterday I made some healthier snacks so I can set the same example! #sharingthebloglove

    • marinailieva says:

      Thank you so much! And great job! Being a good example for your kids is really important, especially these days, when junk food and treats are everywhere. 🙂 xx

  12. Rebecca Taylor says:

    Good for you Marina. Saying no in a non-judgemental way is what we should all be able to do. I feel the same as you, and although I have had to slip through convenience at times, I endeavour to take the healthy option. I remember I was in a small group once where all the other children were eating bag of crisps (adult ones) and Ernie wanted a bag too (it was the novelty I think!) and I weakly succumbed because I didn’t want to seem to be a snob! I felt so guilty afterwards that I had let him scoff the lot, and that I was let my own beliefs go because of worrying what others thought. I won’t do it again! Thank you for sharing. #Sharingthebloglove

    • marinailieva says:

      Thank you, Rebecca! We should try to stick to our own beliefs regardless of people’s opinion. I know that very often, they see me as a snob, but I also know why I’m doing it so the disapproval of others doesn’t bother me. 🙂 xx

  13. winnettes says:

    I agree with you. I have slackened my take on the healthy diet in many ways recently. However, I expect people to ask me first before assuming it’s ok to give my girls sweets or ice cream as I do try and minimise the amount. Recently I have managed to push their dinner time later so we all eat together now. Since then their diet has been brilliant amd varied so I worry less. But in no way should you be made to feel bad or stupid for feeding YOUR child what you deem appropriate! This way your are educating him that a healthy diet isn’t hard to achieve and that it also tastes good. If he then chooses to eat fast food when he is old enough to make his own choices then you can be assured he is making an informed decision. The chances are he will mostly continue as you have started anyway.

    #SharingtheBlogLove

    • marinailieva says:

      Yeap, you’re right. It’s not that we are totally strict about our family diet or go organic and natural all the time. But people, please ask first. 😉 Hope my son will make good choices in the future based on the way we eat at home, but in any case, he hasn’t spent his first years eating sweets and chips. Thank you so much for stopping by. 🙂 xx

  14. topsyturvytribe says:

    I can’t say that I’ve had that many objections to feeding my child healthy food. How awful for you that have! It sounds like you are giving your child a wonderful start #sharingthebloglove

  15. dearbearandbeany (@dearbearandbean) says:

    It annoys me when a child is offered food from someone that we don’t know that well. There are so many reasons why the parent should be asked first, it could be allergies, diet or personal choice. All of these the parent has a right to be in charge of what there child eats. You stand your ground, I know I do. People think I’m strange that my 4 year old only has one juice at the weekends, but she knows no different and is happy with water or milk. We all do what we think is best for our child. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove X

  16. Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons says:

    I seem to battle against this a lot with grandparents! I don’t know why it’s such a big deal for grandparents to give children sweets and juice – it makes it so much harder when we get home and I then have to deal with the cries for ‘juice’ instead of water, or ‘chocolate’. I wish I’d been a bit more like you in the first place and put my foot down more firmly. Thanks so much for joining us again at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • marinailieva says:

      Thank you, Katy. Dealing with grandparents is a huge battle haha. They just want to be kind and we don’t want to hurt them, but sometimes, we just have to be firm. 😉 x

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